Oh, the summer has gone so quickly, and we have not had great weather. It is nice now, but has been cold for the past couple of weeks. And I feel like I have not accomplished anything. Which really doesn't bother me that much, usually, but I had hoped to get some things done. I have enjoyed it, though. I am now a short timer at my store. I am done there at the end of August, and then it will be scary financially, but otherwise it will be good. I am currently working 6 days a week and I am tired. That is just till I am done with the store.
I have acquired yet another chair to reupholster and hopefully sell. I just bought a fabulous new (old) sewing machine that is heavy duty, for upholstering, and it is the most glorious 60's aqua color. It has to work, yes, but it has to look cool, too. It is all about the cool!
I decided I needed to address a few women no-no's. Just because. A disclaimer. I am way overweight, so I am not being a bitch here. Well, maybe I am, but I am in the same weight class.
1- Girls, if you are fat, why would you ever thing spandex, stretchy pants are a good idea??? Just say no!
2 - if you are 5 pounds overweight (please!) quit going on about how fat you are and how you just can't stand it and blah, blah, blah. It gets very old.
3- when you talk about some "really fat girl.guy/whatever/ at the store" your real self is showing and you are talking about me and all your overweight friends. Just don't be nasty. My mother is constantly talking a bout fat stupid people with such hate and contempt and can't figure out why it makes me feel bad. It is because she hates those people, and a part of her hates me.
4- Meanness is not a good thing. It is not cute, or attractive or edgy. It is just mean.
5- Trust yourself. Believe in your choices and beliefs. Don't rely on others to form your opinions. If you feel good about whatever it is, and you can live with your decisions, then go with it. Decide what you believe, and don't think you aren't smart enough to form an opinion. You are.
6- Being helpless is stupid. Learn to count on yourself to take care of yourself. You can be married and never have to rely on only yourself, but you will know you can take care of yourself. Most women will be single for a while and not being secure in your abilities could influence a choice to stay in a bad situation. If you are helpless and pathetic, other people will make fun of you.
7- Not being aware of your financial situation is really stupid. You need to take care of yourself and your future and you will never be sorry if you have money in the bank. And you need to start thinking of money for retire the first day you take a job. Starting young makes it way easier. Most of us hit 40 and then think "Oh my god how will we retire and not be a bag lady." It is scary. Start early. It is very empowering to have smart money habits.
8- Have a hobby beside shopping. Surely there is something you are interested whether a crafty hobby or a political action hobby or reading. Do something beside shop.
9- just try not to be shallow over all. It isn't all about looks, or money or the latest cell phone/car/ outfit. It is about the content of your character and what you leave in your wake.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Saturday, July 21, 2007
Things men should not do
I was responding to a post of Sue Woo and realized men are just stupid. I love men, but they are not the brightest lights on the Christmas tree sometimes. just sayin'. And as I thought about it, I just kept thinking of things, so here goes.
1.- Don't kill your wife. Everyone will know you did it and you will go to jail. Is that REALLY better than a divorce??
2.- Don't wear spandex. Really. It is just not a good look on anyone, and it is either a good advertisement for your wares, or a warning of your shortcomings. At any rate, I just don't want to see it. ( along those same lines, who told fat girls that spandex was a good look???)
3.- don't eat like a pig, then say how you are just not attracted to fat girls. That matchmaker show had a huge guy on there, and he was giving her his opinion, and she said " Why are men 'big' but women are fat?" Some of us fat girls don't mind a little pudge on our men, but unless you are Matt McConaughy, don't be so damn picky.
4.- Don't fart in public. Especially in a store. It isn't cute, or funny. It is just gross, and rude and it just makes you look like a redneck. Except a lot of the rednecks I know are way more polite. Same with belching.
5.- Your so called natural smell is not that sexy to anyone but your girlfriend, and that is pretty iffy. It is not unmanly to wear deodorant. The very best smell on a man is soap. Not buckets of perfume. Yes, it is a fine line to walk, but if you want to get laid, you will walk it.
6.- Don't wear those cutoffs or track shorts you had when you were twenty. They are too damn short and you look like a dork, and I don't want to see your treasures. Especially don't wear them with knee high athletic socks and work boots.
7.- Brush your teeth.
8.-If you are advertising online for a woman, don't take off your shirt and flex for the camera. Don't take a picture of yourself in the shower. Don't think you are a sexpot. You just look vain, and like you are trolling for sex, and most women will just run the other way. Most women don't want to go out with a man who is prettier or who thinks he is prettier than we are. And if you are that hot, why are you advertising???
9.- When you only look at women who are 20 years younger than you, you just seem sad. Are you afraid of grown ups? Do you think you are still that young looking? Do you not care about actually having a conversation with a woman? She is just going to make you feel older.
10.- Don't tell racist or sexist jokes. It is never sexy or funny or anything you think it is. It is sad, pathetic and ignorant, and makes you look like a pig. And people will talk about you behind your back and not invite you to nice parties. You are only fit for keggers. If that.
11.- Women, in general, aren't turned off by you being bald. But that toupee is awful, and we will make fun of it.
12.- Don't whine about everyone hating you and your job is awful, and blah blah blah. Be happy and enjoy your life and have fun. Way more sexy, and just plain nicer to be around, for both men and women.
13.- Understand that women are not your employees, or your servant, and you are a big boy and can turn on the washer, dryer, dishwasher and so on. Chances are, if you are spending much time with a woman, you claim to love her, or at least like her a lot, and treat her at least as well as you treat your own friends. Help her with chores. Way more sexy than thrusting your hips and doing that little thing with your tongue that you think is sexy. And don't even get me started on the strip tease.
14.- Don't proclaim to love someone, and then constantly tell them everything they are doing wrong. Just because it isn't your way, doesn't make it wrong. If you love them, love them. It shouldn't be conditional on their clothing choices or housecleaning skills.
15.- Clean your house. Yea, I hate it, too, but I pay a very nice woman to come in and make it all pretty for me. For less that what you would probably spend on beer. So worth it.
Yes, I am fully aware that women do things, too, but I am a woman and today I am picking on men. Because there is just so much to pick on!
1.- Don't kill your wife. Everyone will know you did it and you will go to jail. Is that REALLY better than a divorce??
2.- Don't wear spandex. Really. It is just not a good look on anyone, and it is either a good advertisement for your wares, or a warning of your shortcomings. At any rate, I just don't want to see it. ( along those same lines, who told fat girls that spandex was a good look???)
3.- don't eat like a pig, then say how you are just not attracted to fat girls. That matchmaker show had a huge guy on there, and he was giving her his opinion, and she said " Why are men 'big' but women are fat?" Some of us fat girls don't mind a little pudge on our men, but unless you are Matt McConaughy, don't be so damn picky.
4.- Don't fart in public. Especially in a store. It isn't cute, or funny. It is just gross, and rude and it just makes you look like a redneck. Except a lot of the rednecks I know are way more polite. Same with belching.
5.- Your so called natural smell is not that sexy to anyone but your girlfriend, and that is pretty iffy. It is not unmanly to wear deodorant. The very best smell on a man is soap. Not buckets of perfume. Yes, it is a fine line to walk, but if you want to get laid, you will walk it.
6.- Don't wear those cutoffs or track shorts you had when you were twenty. They are too damn short and you look like a dork, and I don't want to see your treasures. Especially don't wear them with knee high athletic socks and work boots.
7.- Brush your teeth.
8.-If you are advertising online for a woman, don't take off your shirt and flex for the camera. Don't take a picture of yourself in the shower. Don't think you are a sexpot. You just look vain, and like you are trolling for sex, and most women will just run the other way. Most women don't want to go out with a man who is prettier or who thinks he is prettier than we are. And if you are that hot, why are you advertising???
9.- When you only look at women who are 20 years younger than you, you just seem sad. Are you afraid of grown ups? Do you think you are still that young looking? Do you not care about actually having a conversation with a woman? She is just going to make you feel older.
10.- Don't tell racist or sexist jokes. It is never sexy or funny or anything you think it is. It is sad, pathetic and ignorant, and makes you look like a pig. And people will talk about you behind your back and not invite you to nice parties. You are only fit for keggers. If that.
11.- Women, in general, aren't turned off by you being bald. But that toupee is awful, and we will make fun of it.
12.- Don't whine about everyone hating you and your job is awful, and blah blah blah. Be happy and enjoy your life and have fun. Way more sexy, and just plain nicer to be around, for both men and women.
13.- Understand that women are not your employees, or your servant, and you are a big boy and can turn on the washer, dryer, dishwasher and so on. Chances are, if you are spending much time with a woman, you claim to love her, or at least like her a lot, and treat her at least as well as you treat your own friends. Help her with chores. Way more sexy than thrusting your hips and doing that little thing with your tongue that you think is sexy. And don't even get me started on the strip tease.
14.- Don't proclaim to love someone, and then constantly tell them everything they are doing wrong. Just because it isn't your way, doesn't make it wrong. If you love them, love them. It shouldn't be conditional on their clothing choices or housecleaning skills.
15.- Clean your house. Yea, I hate it, too, but I pay a very nice woman to come in and make it all pretty for me. For less that what you would probably spend on beer. So worth it.
Yes, I am fully aware that women do things, too, but I am a woman and today I am picking on men. Because there is just so much to pick on!
Sunday, July 15, 2007
Slow Sunday
It has been a nice, quiet Sunday at my house. I have sewn much of the day. I finished some flannel baby wipes. I made some cleaning cloths for the woman who cleans my house, because she admired some flannels wipes I had made. I finished a couple of fabric grocery bags, and I made potato salad. I also finished 2 fabric chevron banners for a couple of little girls. They are very cute, and I just need to put their names on them. I spend the bulk of my Sundays trying not to nap. I am not usually a napper, but on Sundays, my only day off, I absolutely cannot nap, as I have to get up at 5 in the morning for my second job. If I nap, then I can't sleep well and I am not as perky as I should be. But it works out.
I spend so much of my life daydreaming about paint and fabric and decorating and the perfect little house. I sometimes wonder if I am just spinning my wheels. There is so much I want to do and so much I want my life to be, but I wonder if I am going to spend my whole life wishing.
In the past, when I have had a bad day or whatever, I have thought, if I just move to some perfect little town of the moment, that my life will be wonderful, I will have a job I love, and friends and a social group and my flowers will be gorgeous and I will eat right. I have moved enough times to know that it doesn't usually turn out that way. No matter where I go, I am still the same person. It is still hard for me to meet and make new friends, I still like staying home and I still don't eat right. Only the scenery changes. The move I am currently working toward is actually based on real things. I am tired of my dark gray mountain winters, non-stop rain and chill. I want to be in the same town as my sister. We have never lived in the same town. Where I am going is warmer and sunnier and doesn't rain as much. I currently live out in the sticks and have to drive 30 miles to anything, and the new place will be an actual town. I will be able to walk anywhere and there is a bookstore, yarn store, fabric store, grocery store, library, the water and Starbucks. There is really everything there, but those are my only necessities. If I really need beyond that, it is 15 minutes away. I know that my life will be somewhat different, just because I will be in a town and more will be possible.
I spend so much of my life daydreaming about paint and fabric and decorating and the perfect little house. I sometimes wonder if I am just spinning my wheels. There is so much I want to do and so much I want my life to be, but I wonder if I am going to spend my whole life wishing.
In the past, when I have had a bad day or whatever, I have thought, if I just move to some perfect little town of the moment, that my life will be wonderful, I will have a job I love, and friends and a social group and my flowers will be gorgeous and I will eat right. I have moved enough times to know that it doesn't usually turn out that way. No matter where I go, I am still the same person. It is still hard for me to meet and make new friends, I still like staying home and I still don't eat right. Only the scenery changes. The move I am currently working toward is actually based on real things. I am tired of my dark gray mountain winters, non-stop rain and chill. I want to be in the same town as my sister. We have never lived in the same town. Where I am going is warmer and sunnier and doesn't rain as much. I currently live out in the sticks and have to drive 30 miles to anything, and the new place will be an actual town. I will be able to walk anywhere and there is a bookstore, yarn store, fabric store, grocery store, library, the water and Starbucks. There is really everything there, but those are my only necessities. If I really need beyond that, it is 15 minutes away. I know that my life will be somewhat different, just because I will be in a town and more will be possible.
Friday, July 13, 2007
SO much fodder
Oh, the things that I have to consider. Chertoff's gut. Well, my gut tells me there will be more attacks, too, but because Bush and his pals have made us so much less safe. They ignore the US and have so many other axis of evil targets. I don't believe in living in fear, and I don't, but I do believe that we are less safe, through the bumbling of this administration.
ANd then there is the whole health care issue.
okay that is just too depressing to think about, so I am just going to leave and go to work.
ANd then there is the whole health care issue.
okay that is just too depressing to think about, so I am just going to leave and go to work.
Wednesday, July 4, 2007
July 4th
I would like to post about how much I love my country and how proud I am of the way we behave and the way our country is going. I do love my country, fiercely, but I am not proud of the way our government has treated the world. I am not proud of the "U.S. knows all the answers to make your country perfect" attitude we seem to have right now.
I would like to see a leader who can lift us up and give us hope and I believe Obama can do that for us. I think he can work with both parties and make things work. I believe he can mend our relations with the rest of the world. I want so badly to feel proud of my country again. I want to feel like we are good people again, instead of the playground bullies that make our own rules and change the rules to suit us, and break those rules when applying them to others. I want to feel like I can believe what my president is telling me, rather than assuming he is never telling us the truth. I want to feel like our leaders have personal integrity. For all the crap the right gave Clinton about that same issue, they have not shown us anything different, adn in fact, mostly worse. He lied about getting a blow job. Bush has lied about everything it seems. And I fear he is going to lie us into Iran, too. The only reasons those countries are a threat to us is that we have threatened them.
And so, on this Independence Day, I hope that our future holds a return to what once made us good and honorable. I hope it hold out hope for a better world and making hte world better, instead of scarier. We live in a culture of fear and the boogeyman, and we created so much of that and brought it on ourselves. And, no, I am not talking about 9/11. I am talking about post 9/11 events. Iraq, bombings, threats, Iran. I believe we created those situations by our actions. I do support the continued search for Bin Laden, but our president doesn't consider him to be of any importance. we have lost our way, and I hope we can find it again.
Blessings to you and yours on this day, and my you find peace in your life.
I would like to see a leader who can lift us up and give us hope and I believe Obama can do that for us. I think he can work with both parties and make things work. I believe he can mend our relations with the rest of the world. I want so badly to feel proud of my country again. I want to feel like we are good people again, instead of the playground bullies that make our own rules and change the rules to suit us, and break those rules when applying them to others. I want to feel like I can believe what my president is telling me, rather than assuming he is never telling us the truth. I want to feel like our leaders have personal integrity. For all the crap the right gave Clinton about that same issue, they have not shown us anything different, adn in fact, mostly worse. He lied about getting a blow job. Bush has lied about everything it seems. And I fear he is going to lie us into Iran, too. The only reasons those countries are a threat to us is that we have threatened them.
And so, on this Independence Day, I hope that our future holds a return to what once made us good and honorable. I hope it hold out hope for a better world and making hte world better, instead of scarier. We live in a culture of fear and the boogeyman, and we created so much of that and brought it on ourselves. And, no, I am not talking about 9/11. I am talking about post 9/11 events. Iraq, bombings, threats, Iran. I believe we created those situations by our actions. I do support the continued search for Bin Laden, but our president doesn't consider him to be of any importance. we have lost our way, and I hope we can find it again.
Blessings to you and yours on this day, and my you find peace in your life.
Sunday, July 1, 2007
July 1
We have not had summer yet, and, after a while it gets very old! But the sun is out today and perhaps summer is here. We always jokingly say summer starts on July 5. And that is really quite true. And, since we have not had summer, we haven't had a home sales period. I am still hopefull, but not expecting to sell this year. But cross your fingers for me anyway. It can't hurt.
I am being very wishy washy today and I hate when I am like that. I sort of want to go to town, so I don't have to go tomorrow after working all day. But it will be hot and crowded, and I may do better to stay here and just whine a little! I have things to do here, but frankly, when you work 6 days a week, it is hard to work up any umph for doing housework. But if I nap, I won't sleep tonight, and that is bad, too. Whine, whine, whine.
I am glad no one reads this but me.
I am being very wishy washy today and I hate when I am like that. I sort of want to go to town, so I don't have to go tomorrow after working all day. But it will be hot and crowded, and I may do better to stay here and just whine a little! I have things to do here, but frankly, when you work 6 days a week, it is hard to work up any umph for doing housework. But if I nap, I won't sleep tonight, and that is bad, too. Whine, whine, whine.
I am glad no one reads this but me.
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